Note: This article discusses a recent traumatic event. Please take breaks if you need to.
Collective Grief in Sydney: Caring for Each Other After the Bondi Beach Shooting
News of violence in a familiar place shakes a community. Even those far from the scene may feel numb, frightened or angry, and feelings can shift from day to day. This piece offers simple guidance for steadiness and mutual care.
What collective grief feels like
Collective grief is a shared sense of loss and vulnerability. It can show up as headaches, tight shoulders, trouble sleeping or a foggy mind. People might withdraw or over-check news, or become irritable. There is no right or wrong response.
How tragedy ripples through a community
Public violence unsettles routines. People might avoid crowds or feel wary in public. Workplaces and schools may notice lower attendance or short tempers. Those with past trauma can feel it more deeply. Limit rumours and graphic footage; pause before sharing and use trusted sources.
Practical ways to steady yourself day to day
Gentle actions can help calm your nervous system:
- Limit news to short, scheduled windows.
- Keep simple routines: regular sleep, meals and a small walk.
- Use a calming breath: inhale four, hold two and exhale six.
- Connect with someone you trust or sit quietly with a cuppa.
Supporting children and teens
Children and teens take cues from adults. Speak plainly without detail, answer questions and correct rumours kindly. Keep regular meals, school and bedtimes. Ask “What did you hear?” and “How are you feeling?” Encourage play and movement. You might say, “You may have heard something scary. Ask me anything,” then reassure, “You’re safe here. We’ll stick to our usual routine tonight.”
Caring for each other at work and in public spaces
In workplaces, start the day gently. Keep meetings short, offer a quiet room or walk-and-talk option, and let people take breaks without explanation. In public, expect frayed patience and show kindness by offering a seat, holding a door or simply smiling. Small gestures remind us we’re not alone.
When to seek extra support
Distress usually eases with time and care. Seek help if you can’t sleep, feel constant dread, have intrusive thoughts or feel unsafe everywhere. Turning to alcohol or thinking of self-harm are clear signs to speak with a psychologist, counsellor or GP. With support, the weight will lift. If you are in immediate danger, call 000. Lifeline 13 11 14. NSW Mental Health Line 1800 011 511. Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800
